Asokira, you have done NOTHING wrong, OK? Nothing at all. It is not your fault. I believe that once someone hits you, it’s their fault, regardless of what may have provoked it. Please don’t blame yourself for this. I’ve personally grown up blaming myself for not being able to stop my dad from hurting my mother, but I’m slowly starting to tell myself that I am not responsible for any of it. It’s hard to do this, but it helps.

If you find it difficult to listen to what he says before he gets violent, perhaps you yourself could try counselling to learn. Or you can both, as ShastaKey has suggested, a third party professional might be able to help mediate. Of course, I’m not a professional myself, so my advice is probably not the best.

Again, Asokira, you are not to blame. He is hitting you because he wants to control you and your responses.

That just doesn’t make sense. That kind of masochistic vindication isn’t good for either of you.

If I were you, I’d be scared that he’d continue to hurt me, even if I could fix my own problems. I don’t think I’d want a relationship like that to persist. But, if you do, I think that it’s something that you should work out together. You both have problems. He hurts you physically. You hurt him emotionally. From here, his problems look a lot bigger to me, but maybe you can work them out together.

Have you tried couple’s counseling? If not, you definitely should.

However, asokira, your man is plain sadistic.

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