i know i should leave him for what hes d…
i know i should leave him for what hes done to me and what hes doing to himself. but i dont know how. i have nowhere to go and no money to go there with. and even though hes broken my heart i really do still love him too. he is a good father and i dont want her to grow up without him like i did with my real father. im afraid of what hell do to himself if i do leave...
and again its not like i have any idea how to do it... no job, no car, no money, nowhere else to go, noone else to help me, noone else to even talk to.... god im just so depressed... i dont know what to do anymore...
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Remixer 1:42 am on December 4, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
There are women’s shelters you can seek refuge in.
For a child, it is much better for his/her development, if the parents around it are truly happy, not a fake family as the one you’re trying to keep up.
Remixer
Desolate and Forlorn 1:51 am on December 4, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
theres no shelters around where i live and i really wouldnt want to take my daughter to one of those places anyways. its not like he beats us or anything. it just seems like i dont matter to him anymore…. not since he cheated on me with my socalled best friend 6 months ago. we fight about stupid things. im very depressed and he has a bad habit that is harmful to himself. it just seems everytime things are goin right for me my life gets flipped upside down and i get hurt again and again and again by those i care most about… i just dont understand it. i try to be a really good person and all i get in life is this endless circle of fleeting joys and overwhelming dispair in the long run! i just wish for once i could be truly happy and for it to last more than just mere moments!
Remixer 9:24 am on December 4, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Then you only have two choices:
1. Get proper couple counseling and attempt to better your communication with your partner.
2. Do nothing and destroy your mind in the long-run.
Remixer
secondchancesx3 2:15 am on December 4, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
I second what Remixer said. Even if he doesnt physically hurt you.. I grew up with my parents fighting constantly. They never physically hurt each other. But my dad would constantly throw stuff and break stuff. My mom was always depressed. I would always accidently walk in on her crying her eyes out because she was depressed… I would have MUCH rathered my parents got divorced when I was younger, and seen them be happy, rather then seeing all of their fighting and their depression.
addictguy 7:01 am on December 4, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
there are womans programs that can help. The deeper you get into your depression the more hopless things will feel so try to find one asap. Many are free. If you love him and he does love you, a couples program may help to sort things out to. Most men cheat because they are trying to find escape from somthing, Not that he doesn’t love you or that he wants to escape from you. Many people don’t understand this. If there is still love in the relationship his cheating really may not have anything to do with you or that you are not enough for him like many women may think after going through this. there are 12 step programs you both can attend seprately to help if you can not afford a therapist. Even if you just go it will help you mentally knowing you are not alone.
quiteabitch 9:05 pm on December 4, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
my moms in the exact same position. But you know, I hate my dad because of what he does to her EVERY-SINGLE-DAY. I will NEVER forgive him. Id rather they be divorced and happy than the way they are rite now. And also, you got the rights. 50%. My mom wont get that and also hes her boss, so no. Anyway, I say go forward for happiness and your children will be happy and proud of you. Happiness; NOT MONEY. As a teenager, Id give up ANYTHING for my momto leave my dad.
Desolate and Forlorn 9:51 pm on December 4, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
I know what I have to do. And today Ive decided its time to stop being the lazy ass I have been and make things happen. I want to do this I really do. I want to succeed; but I know its in my nature to give up on things that seem hard and Im afraid Im going to fail like I have at pretty much everything else in my life. I am going to try though. If I keep reminding myself everything Im doing Im doing for the better of my child; maybe I can actually stick to it!
quiteabitch 7:27 am on December 5, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Thats the way! Im so proud of you. You know if youre stuggleing were always here for you. It might not be much cause im just 13, but I can tell you how proud Id be of my mom if she did the same thing youll do. Dont give up! Go for happiness cause you only live once, and your child will understand and be proud of you, depends on what her age is one day shell be mature enough to understand what happened. I promise. Now go for it and you know were always here for you.