That guy that i thought was so absolutely perfect for me… the one that seemed to be everything I wanted… we’re over. We did the long distance thing for almost 2 months before it ended, and everything he promised me wouldn’t happen, did. He told me he would do EVERYTHING in his power to make […]
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Today my boyfriend almost broke up with me. It’s funny, I had been somewhat fed up with the relationship and the thought of ending it had been crossing my mind. It didn’t exactly sadden me, either. It was almost a relief. He moved 150 miles away a few weeks ago and things have been tough […]
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Cavalary
From what you’re saying, he’s right, you know? And you seem to admit it too… Seems to me like you took his assurances to mean that you can get away with everything and tried to do just that, so maybe something like this is just what you both needed.
There can be a certain degree of constructive arguments and perhaps even a certain degree of butting heads for no other reason than because it’s how you “work” without problems because that’s just how some people are (myself included - though not in a relationship; bar a few crucial issues, with her I’d just shrug and give in, it was too important to risk over differences of opinion on non-critical issues, which is something you may need to learn), but when it gets to basically just aggravating the other on purpose or even just putting minor issues in front of the relationship, that can’t work.
Think of it as a new start, if he’s truly willing to give it another go. But TALK about it, A LOT!
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carbonlifeform
Standing before the minister almost 4 years ago at 19, I knew that this day would come. Not because I have a problem remaining faithful, but because even in that moment I knew that he wasn’t the one that would make me happy for the rest of my life. I loved him still, and I […]
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Chemistry
That’s crazy. At first, when I started to read your entry, I just wanted to dismiss it as one of those cases where a girl is stringing a guy along. Now I feel bad that I started to judge. It’s hard to not go with the flow when relationships are picking up momentum. I dated this guy once who loved me a lot more than I ever could, and I just kept staying in the relationship unhappily hoping I would feel the same way one day. I felt trapped and I was too scared to end it, so I have a glimmer of understanding of what you might have felt, although completely not on the same scale.
I don’t think you ruined his life. It would have been better if you had ended it earlier, yes, but it’s all in the past now, and better late than never. He was controlling though, and I don’t think you should blame yourself for not feeling anything. You tried, and at least you’re honest to end it. I’m glad you finally got the courage to find your own happiness, and I’m sure he will, too. I hope things work out for you. ♥
P.S. On a side-note, watch out for him. From what you described, he’s the jealous, controlling type (more so than normal). I know a lot of people who have had trouble dealing with exes like that. My friend’s ex threatened to kill her and her new boyfriend, and he was also very, very jealous and controlling. I’m not saying that’s what type of person he is, but I don’t want you to end up in my friend’s situation. It was intense. Sorry, I didn’t mean to sound like a downer. Haha, those types of guys just intimidate me is all.
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carbonlifeform
Thanks, I really appreciate the encouraging words and advice. I’m extremely confident he’s not one of those guys. He’s actually rather amazing, just not the one for me. And I know that everything he did to keep me as close to him as possible was simply insecurity. I think he just needs to find a girl that’s more inclined to let the guy in her life make decisions for her and provide her with whatever she needs. That girl just certainly is not me.
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bobburgster
As hard as it must have been, you did the right thing. Knowing that, doesn’t make it easier seeing the pain he is going through. The sooner you make a it a total separation the sooner you will move on.
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carbonlifeform
I’m working on it. Boy, am I working on it haha.
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A love that should have last years
I’ve been thinking about leaving my husband for quite some time now. He’s an amazing guy and we have a relatively enjoyable relationship, but I’ve come to the realization that we are not meant to be with one another. We’re completely different people and the only thing keeping us together is comfortability. Any woman would […]
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eradicate
I don’t know you, but I’m proud of you.
Thank you for this. -
quiteabitch
I love that you took desitions for yourself. Im really glad you chase happiness. I hope my mom were like you and separated from my dad for once and for all!
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pd0815 6:26 am on March 8, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Ok. this guy isn’t the one with the problem. you are. I know WoW players. I’m one myself. one relationship ended because of it but the answer is to find a girl who absolutely doesn’t mind it or plays it herself. First I found a girl ingame and we had a long distance thing going on. then I found a local girl that plays it and we play together. I’m really sick of people blaming the fucking game for their problems. Yea it can be consuming but so can relationships.