It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution
Oscar Wilde
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gabe
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gabe
i’ve noticed an interesting trend of users posting from multiple accounts, even having conversations with themselves. weird.
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gabe
maybe i should try it.
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raven
seriously?? that’s weird.
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secondchancesx3
how do you know? do they use the same email address?
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gabe
the random geometric icons… if two users have the same one, they’re on the same computer.
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secondchancesx3
i use this screen name on dif computers though. or is it if they make a new screen name on the same computer they made the old one on?
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Chemistry
I haven’t noticed people with the same geometric icons, just similar. That’s weird.
And is there a way to change it? How come mine is some pupil-less guy and everyone else has some geometric shape? haha. It’s bothering me ):-
raven
oh i thought yours was like that coz u changed it yourself!! you’re special! lol meanwhile i want to change mine…
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Chemistry
Hahaa! I wish I knew how to change it. Mine looks so much weirder than those geometric shapes (in my opinion).
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gabe
I screwed up. Try logging in again.
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gabe
The site is back. (The regular domain will work soon.)
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anonymous
Thank you! I really hope hugs are back up soon though. I take it this is still a work-in-progress. And thanks for adding "search" again.
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Anonymous
i need hugs back! grouphug doesn’t feel the same at all!
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Rand
I would love to have hugs as well. The search is great, this blog still up and running is great. I just really need to have a hug and give a couple hugs, though.
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chburba
I don’t want hugs..I like how it was/is without them.
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gabe
This is so stupid.
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brad cook
ridiculously perfect theme
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I love you Gabriel Jeffrey. Thank you for the site and all of your effort.
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Anonymous
hahaha that was the best! Nice thighs in the top right corner
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gabe
This is a quick note. For those of you just tuning in and noticing that the site is jacked up: do not adjust your set. GroupHug.us broke last week and this is a temporary blog I set up just to keep you all informed. We are accepting confessions on this blog in various experimental ways, but the real site will return some time in the next few days (the new guy had to leave town for a few days, but he had most things working before he left).
For those people seeing fit to email me insults for some reason or another, or to try posting them in the comments: you are morons. Pursuant to that, please fill this dork’s inbox with something awful: sneakyness@sneakyness.com.
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Anonymous
I’m sorry that people are being jackasses about everything. I just want to say that a lot of people appreciate what you’re doing (on your own dime and time) so thank you so much! I’m looking forward to the new site
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pk
People are absolute jerks - i think it must be hidden within the human dna. perhaps? honestly - i wouldnt know… i cant even begin to understand why you’d get abusive, pathetic emails to begin with.
Oh well, karma is a bitch aint it.
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For me everything was already clarified. People just complain to complain.
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Anonymous
Maybe what you can do is have the confessions require you to put in your age! Then there could be different sections, like Confessions from people ages 18-25, 26-30, 31 and up? You could also have moderators from different age groups pick out confessions they like best and then put them in their own age group section
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Anonymous
I think it’s a good idea to add another section. I saw that “help wanted” call for moderators, and began to get worried that all confessions were going to be judged on which were “the best”. However, if there was a section that allowed all confessions, and then another section that was moderated, and showed only “the top” (the more grammatically correct and original) confessions, I think that’d be great. While I do enjoy looking through all the confessions, I can only drink beer before noon on certain days… and would like to be able to just hit the top ones quickly on my busier days. I look forward to seeing what you come up with.
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Anonymous
I don’t care what you do. Just please hurry up with it!!
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Anonymous
I do support moderation of comments, however, “picking the best” of them sort of defeats the whole purpose of this being a confession site. People like seeing their secrets being put up anonymously, because it’s a bit healing. Choosing just “some” to post is just affirming the crappiness that’s been going on in their life. Don’t be like Fmylife.com where moderators choose really stupid fake ones over the legit ones. As soon as you start taking the more interesting ones, people are going to start making up stuff to see if it gets posted.
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Anonymous
i liked the way how, for a while, the old site would have a section for confessions passed by moderators and the newest confessions. if we could have that sort of system like the first poster said about maybe a sort of highest-rated section of the site with another section dedicated to all other confessions, that would tailor to both the hardcore readers and the ones who want a good overview of the site or are in a hurry.
‘Top Rated” and “Other”? the “other” sounds sort of bad, but it’s flexible.
also, i think we should have the option to disable comments on our confessions. if you’re like me, sometimes just getting it out there is more than enough. the topic groups thing is a pretty good idea too if you really like reading confessions about a certain topic, but i don’t want the new grouphug to become overly complex and organized, because “organizing” secrets doesn’t seem like something that should be done.
i’m very excited for the new site!
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Anonymous
Audiocrush>>> AUDIOCRUSH!
There is a podcast void in my life right now that would be remedied with a regular dose of Audiocrush… -
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LOL I’m almost 27: I can drink beer anytime, I still find farts just as funny, etc. But I agree, I think it would be good with different sections from people ages 18-25, 26-30, 31 and up, then inside those sections could be categories on how they’re classified (sex, religion, work, race.. etc.). I just think it would be a good idea. I’m not too keen though on the mods picking and chosing, I don’t want to have to strive to be placed somewhere that more people read. Depending on the way it’s set up, I also don’t want to have to be “good enough” to make “the list”. Also, there might end up being false confessions to try to make the “more important” page.
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Anonymous
I think if there were sections for different age groups, most people would end up lying about thier age. I know I would. Just to make me feel more secure about the confidentiality. How would you really know if the 18 year olds aren’t posting in the 50 year old section? The age divided sections would then become pointless.
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Anonymous
Whatever you do, please stop having the mods picking and choosing confessions. That defeats the purpose of this site. I know that when I used to come and pour my heart and all my pain into a confession, only to have it deleted ten seconds later, it really made me feel even more depressed and horrible. I didn’t even visit the site for weeks after that. And to be honest, if that starts again, I won’t be visiting any more. What drew me to this site was the fact that I could pour all my pain, guilt, anger, whatever, out anonymously, and that some people out there would give me ‘hugs’. It felt comforting and awesome to know that that even though I didn’t know them and they didn’t know me, someone cared enough to try to boost my spirits. THAT is what grouphug should be about.
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Anonymous
I really like the idea of separating the confessions based on age/topic.
See comment posted at 7:54 on May 15th.
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Anonymous
I love the original simplicity of the site. If only there was a way to keep doing that and keep out the spammers!
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Anonymous
“However, if there was a section that allowed all confessions, and then another section that was moderated, and showed only “the top” (the more grammatically correct and original) confessions, I think that’d be great.”
I totally agree with this statement. There for a while I was able to view the un-moderated in Firefox for the Emergency Confessions section, something you must have “fixed” because I can’t anymore…
anyway, during that time I enjoyed this site… but not now.
Please consider this request
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Anonymous
I think that you guys should make sure that THIS site is stable and isn’t crashing before trying to add another addition to it.
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Anonymous
i think that it might be nice idea to have a section of the site for ‘most hugged’, although i can also see how this would become a problem because the same confessions would keep getting hugged while other just as worthy confessions might not make it. maybe once a confession gets something like 20+ hugs it can also be added to this section of the site which can be refreshed, in a similar way to the old ‘random’ section (which i loved, btw). for a more refined section, perhaps the job can be left to the moderators, while for the ‘most hugged’, it can be left to the readers. it would be great if ‘random’ could be kept as well though because i could tell that that way, some confessions had a chance to come up which had been written years ago but had hardly been read.
also, i didn’t like the capacity to add comments to confessions as i feel it turned the website into a forum and cheapened the experience (after all, we are told never to reply to other confessions). nevertheless, i understand that some confessors post for consolation, so i agree that we should have the option to disable comments on our individual confessions.
i don’t think grouphug should be divided into categories by topic. what i always liked about grouphug was how it allowed thousands of people to confess about many different aspects of life together.
finally, i’m not sure if you were aware of a glitch in the system earlier; if a confessions received -1 hugs in total within its first few minutes of existence, it would automatically be deleted. i hope you can get this fixed.
sorry that my comment is long. i hope it isn’t unintelligible.
thank you for your hard work xxx
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Anonymous
I don’t think they should be divided by age because I think people would lie about that. In all of our little paranoid, delusional minds we read our own confessions and think “what if he/she reads this and see’s how old I am (or there about) and figures out its me!” I do, however, think it’s a really great idea to divide them into categories based on the topic, like the book is. I think it would be pretty time consuming for the moderators to read and classify each confession, so maybe there could be a field when confessing that the confessor can determine which category their posting should be in. Just a thought.
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Anonymous
BTW you remind me of my own math teacher. Brilliant but a bit scattered. The whole nutty professor/mad scientist thing. Very cool.
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Anonymous
Please keep the site in its simplicity. Since the idea is to release any thought in complete anonymity, the site shouldn’t need any sort of organization. The site is for the confessors, not readers. We don’t confess for the sake of an audience, regardless.
Oh, and p.s.-If you’re not a ‘hardcore’ Group Hug reader and a sufficient amount of time isn’t spent appreciating the site, then get over it. Honestly. Sit down, relax for a while, and feel some sort of basic human connection. It’s nice.
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Anonymous
I don’t know where the idea for age groups came from but it’s not cool in my opinion.
Grouphug should remain simple… no social networking, no comments, no subject divisions. Maybe you could tag how many subjects your confession falls into and then based on that people could choose to read confessions about love, hate, jealousy, etc. A section of Grouphug that has confessions chosen by the moderators was also a great idea back when that was in play… but the whole site shouldn’t be like that.
As long as it’s possible to read all of the confessions people make, regardless of “the best” or “the worst” ones and regardless of subject matter or age appropriateness, or what have you, then Grouphug will be okay I think.
I really liked the random function as well.
Just make sure it doesn’t take thousands of manhours to maintain and that it is pretty much autonomous. Then you’d be able to continue on your merry 30-year-old life and let the site take care of itself. To do that, I assume it has to be a simple site. And from the comments it seems like the majority of us are in favor of simplicity.
So: 1. newest confessions sections, which is all confessions made sans discrimination of any kind. 2. moderator-chosen confessions section, for a quick and high-quality read. 3. random section, so that old ones get drudged back up again. 4. possible tags by confessors on confessions, similar to many blogs where different articles are tagged with different themes, and you can click on the theme to read all the articles on it. 5. a possible most-hugged section (I like the idea that anything over about 20 hugs makes the cut, refreshed daily or weekly perhaps).
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The only thing broke about this site was the technical part. The great thing about the site was the variety…Sorting and organizing the submissions by age and theme fixes something that wasnt broken. Yes to the posts which support the huggable simplicity of the site which works fine. Lets not improve the way a spare site works effectively with its scroll of diverse confessions.
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Anonymous
I miss the old way it used to be waayy back when there was a link on the site that said “moderate” and anyone could moderate.
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gabe
I have been asked dozens of times about how I came up with the idea and the name for grouphug.us. I was asked on the air by morning talk shows across the country, on the BBC World Service, in printed pages including those of The New York Post. Each time I told the same overall story—perhaps with a different emphasis depending on my mood—but outside of the book I edited a few years ago (the publisher of which, by the way, went bankrupt without paying me most of the royalties) I’ve never gone into the details of the exact moment the site was born.
Until now.
See, I just ran across the manuscript of the book (hell if I know where an actual copy is) and found the September 29, 2003 chat transcript where it all happens:
12:05 AM
Me: Should my confession site be grouphug.us?Her: Ha-ha. Yes.
Me: Really?
Her: Yes. I like it. What else you got.
Me: I’ve been looking for .us domains ‘cause they’re silly and cheap.
Her: How cheap?
Me: $5
Her: Wow!
Me: Maybe I’ll stay up and build the site! I can’t sleep anyway.
Her: Do it!
12:10 AM
Me: I bought grouphug.us.Her: Yay.
Me: How silly… ok, I’m going to get a snack, then group therapy building.
Her: I’m having water for snack.
Me: You have to make up some confessions. I decided that it has to be totally confidential. No email address or anything ‘cause otherwise my friends won’t trust it.
Her: Cause I’m sick, and have no appetite really.
So that’s it, despite other rumors of where or when this little social experiment might have started. In the third week later, there were over 2.5 million pages served up from grouphug.us. Right now, we have a database of over 1,000,000 confessions.
Here’s to another million.
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Anonymous
Group Hug was a genius idea, no matter how little time it took to come up with it. : )
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Anonymous
The best ideas sometimes come from thin air!
Group Hug was indeed a genius idea and one that should remain as simple as how it began. Once you start adding comments to confessions, a forum, or user accounts, you lose the simplicity and anonymity.
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Anonymous
that girl is so lucky to know you.
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Anonymous
you’ve done well mate keep up the good work
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Frosky
this is my favorite book i own =)
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Anonymous
amazing. Simply amazing. Bravo gabe.
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Anonymous
I love this book i got it in 9th grade
I always read it when i’m feeling sad and knowing that people’s lives are more fucked up than mine…makes me feel better! -
pk
I’m actually a little jealous i didnt think of Group Hug myself.
hahaha - live it up Gabe. youre doing great.
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D
I can’t fucking believe the publisher got out of paying you royalties. I bought the book just so you could get the royalty from it. ugh. I still love it, though. Thanks for your efforts.
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no Anonymous commenter #3. HE is lucky to know ME!!!
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Anonymous
Hey Gabe.
It’s great to hear that the site is coming back soon!
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Anonymous
Yay new Group Hug!
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Anonymous
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Anonymous
Yeah. I had a feeling Gabe was fucking hot.
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Anonymous
Or is, rather.
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Anonymous
Whoa. Gabe is hot.
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Tray
Gabe is cute. My boyfriend is cuter though.
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Anonymous
Honestly…until this video i thought Gabriel was a girl…i kind of pictured her like Abby from NCIS. whoops!!
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Anonymous
Ah we’re all such predators
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Anonymous
gabe i thought u wuz a black guy
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Anonymous
I love grouphug, keep it up
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Anonymous
so hot?
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Anonymous
Whoa. Who knew he was such a hottie?
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Anonymous
Gabe = sexy omfg.
Diggin the hair!Keep up the good work!
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Anonymous
Gabe is sexy omgggggg. Keep up the good fight!
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Anonymous
cutie. im so excited for grouphug to be back up. im dying with out it. this just isnt the same. thatd be sweet if we really can get in contact with each other.
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Anonymous
get well soon…
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Anonymous
Grrrrrr baby!!!
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Anonymous
Hot Damn, I’m sure this is a huge boost to your ego, eh? You are pretty damn hot. =D
And yay~ I’m so excited for Group Hug to come back. I miss it. I go to FML to laugh, I come here to be serious. <3
Keep up the good work.
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Sofia
So basically, it’s gonna be harder, better, faster, stronger?
Ah well, Kanye was good for something (;
<33
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gabe
the daft punk song was better before kanye made a bazillion dollars on it.
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novella0013
amen to that!
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gabe
Let’s use this crash to move Group Hug in a better direction. In order to do that we’re going to need some new blood. I need a volunteer staff of really fucking smart people. I need editors to go through confessions and find the meat. This is not a programmer position, or a writing position, this is a call for moderators. What I need is smart people with opinions to edit a particular section of a redesigned Group Hug. If you know you’ve got the goods, head on over to the application.
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gabe
We could really use someone familiar with Drupal. Anybody?
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I'm no expert...
But I’ve worked with it before. What needs doing?
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Anonymous
I can help. Let me know.
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Anonymous
me
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Dave
The site is mostly online, just dealing with fresh httpd install issues. OS installed, services installed, database is restored, files restored, update run successfully, configed success… Just a few more kinks and it’ll be online. I don’t know if anybody has ever hand fixed corrupted syntax in a 4gb database but it is very time consuming.
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Anonymous
Check your email.
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Jeff Veit - Drupal help
Hi Gabe,
I’m over the enormous crunch I had and I might be able to help with your Drupal problem.
I’ll send this via your gmail account too.
Jeff
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Dodge S.
E-mail sent.
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George - US&V Inc
Gabe,
Hello, I sent you a proposal last year about updating your site to Drupal. I don’t have you direct email address anymore, but you can reach me at George@usandv.com.
Thanks
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Anonymous
try joomla. or bang it out in php!
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Megs Direx
If you guys still need help with whatever… I’m a drupal expert. A couple Drupal-based sites I webmaster for are animenext.org & manganext.org.
You can reach me at odirex@gmail.com
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gabe
I’ve set up an emergency confessions section here on the temporary site. Check it out.
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Anonymous
I miss you more then you will ever know
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Anonymous
being with you doesnt feel like it should. i do like you but its a temporary feeling that goes away one second and comes back another.. and in my opinion that isnt right at all. i like someone else, i think about that person every moment of the day..even when im with you. but the thing is, that person that i really care about is to much of a good friend and i doubt they would feel the same way back.. so i dont wanna risk it..i fucking hate this. being with someone because i dont have any other choice.. i dont wanna regret it because sometimes i dont even no whats best for me..im an idiot.. i wish i stopped this when i could have..now im stuck with you and i feel terrible about it.. you deserve someone who wants to be with you every single day not a bitch like me who is gonna miss what she once had.. im sorry
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Anonymous
Our relationship was the last thing that I needed. And my toilet still isn’t fixed.
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Anonymous
just end it with me already!
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Anonymous
I am so cheap that I take a #2 before having a shower to save on toilet paper.
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Anonymous
You called me today to check if I was better from the flu, and offered to spend the weekend with me. That was really nice of you… I’m starting to think that maybe, just maybe, you care about me.
I’m so glad you so, because I happen to like you very very much.
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Anonymous
i’m afraid if we both start dating it’ll mess up how amazing and strong our friendship has gotten.
i need time. please wait.
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Anonymous
i love my girlfriend. i took her virginity. we haven’t had sex in the last two months because of finals, and preparing for it. on our one year anniversary we set a whole day aside to do whatever we wanted. she told me to go buy condoms, so i did. we laid down to watch a movie, she started to play with me a little, and turned over to watch the movie.
i got pissed and made her leave.
i’m not the least bit sorry.
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Anonymous
i think i may be falling in love with you, honestly.
too bad you’re so attached to your ex-girlfriend that you’ll never realize i’m totally making advances towards you.
thank you for spending so much time with me today. even though it hurts now, i had butterflies for the first time in a very long time..
<3maybe i could just tell you tomorrow. be all like ‘hey, i love you, don’t tell anyone!’ and then return to napping on my desk. haha, what a nightmare that would be. oh well. i suppose only time will tell.
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Anonymous
I am jealous that all of my friends have boyfriends. I actually can’t stand it. I’m just scared of being alone my whole life…
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Anonymous
i sent naughty (half naked )pics to a guy who asked me to. he didn’t tell me he was with a friend. his friend called me a slut yesterday. i also send dirty pics to another guy. i don’t know why i did it. i feel disgusting and easy. the reason i did it was too feel like a guy liked me or thought i was hot for once. i am going to a party where all of them will be there. i promised one of them i would make out with them. and as for the other i said would make out with him, let him feel me up, and maybe give him a handjob. i don’t know what to do. thank goodness they don’t even live in my homestate.
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Anonymous
I’m so passionate that it is destructive to my personality.
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Anonymous
i want to be single again, but I’m scard of leaving my boyfriend. I do love him, but part of me wants to just..get away from him. But if i let him go, and then miss him, I’ll never get him back. I guess I just like the security
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Anonymous
I am in love with a guy who left me for someone that he works with. Out of nowhere just completely dropped me out of his life. Four months have passed and everyday I still have that little bit of hope that we will get back together. Pathetic.
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BG
I think people who break up a relationship because of weight gain are scum. If it’s a problem…it should be discussed with the one who’s gained weight. After all…..weight can be lost. Dumb fucks!
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Name?
If there is an extra seat available this Saturday night, I hope you will occupy it by my side. I want so badly to spend an evening with you, and just you, without thinking about inviting anyone else, or talking about him. If it could be just you and me, I would be happy.
Please say yes to me.
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Anonymous
Mom, I’m not moving 2,000 miles away to hurt you more.
I’m moving 2,000 miles away to make you proud.
I want to be the daughter you never thought you’d have. -
a girl
I don’t know what to do anymore. My life is unraveling and fraying at the seams, and I’m just sitting here, smoking Newports and watching it.
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Anonymous
I think I am falling in love with him.
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Anonymous
I have to stop watching porn! My girlfriend will kill me! My coworkers will find out and think I’m a creep!
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gabe
While we drink black coffee, smoke stale cigarettes, cry on each other and kick the sonofabitch vending machine, waiting for some news (any news) on the state of our beloved Group Hug—let’s reminisce about the good times. Try to remember your favorite confession of all time and post it in the comments.
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Steely Dan
This one was in the book as well…
The guy who admitted he faked his way through his career. One example of his shenanigans was he kept a ton of impressive looking books on his shelf which he only skimmed so as to be able to bs his way through a conversation about them. Essentially, the guy lived a total lie and it paid off handsomely for him..
I like it because it validated my sentiments that most successful people are just con artists, but few of them are able to admit it.
(this was not intended as a flame, just an observation that success in this world usually means surrounding your self with people better than you)
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Tea
There was one confession where a nurse confesses to hating selfish people who temp suicide with pills and are okay for the first few days and the family is glad the person is okay, and the person really doesn’t want to die now that they see the family is glad for them. Then she admits to the people dying painful over the next month because the did in fact kill themselves. The nurse then confess to needing that bed that , that time, that energy to spend on people who are dying in ICU from reasons not by there own hand. …. just yesterday my first cousin took 90 Acetaminophen and is now in that few day period… I hope she pulls through, we are close, she shares my birthday. If I could confess, I would confess to knowing the nurse is right.
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Zachalicous
My personal favorite, a man admits that when he was 15 he had intercourse with a 12 year old girl in the sauna of a hotel spa. He maintains that to this day that was the best sex he has had in his life.
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Chapter1
The only ones I can remember are both recent, but they really stuck with me for some reason.
“Hold on…I’m trying to think of a cool way to say that we’re meant for each other.”
And:
“I think I was born with a broken heart.”
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Anna
I saw the confession like the comment above this one too, and I’m sorry for their cousin.
I’m going to have to say my favorite confession was a poem.
“There are times when life calls out for a change. A transition. Like the seasons. Our spring
was wonderful, but summer is over now and we missed out on autumn. And now all of a
sudden, it’s cold, so cold that everything is freezing over. Our love fell asleep, and the snow
took it by surprise. But if you fall asleep in the snow, you don’t feel death coming. Take
care.”
Thanks for this, it helped me realize how dead my relationship was, and that it was time to let it go. There’s other ones that have touched me, but I’m very fond of this one. -
Whole
“Fuck money.
I would live on the streets with the person I love.” -
secrets
my favorite so far is
” he just text me and i can’t stop smiling”
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Anonymous
I save some of my favorites in a text document… this one is really good:
378778395
i have to admit that i’m a very judgemental person. when i see fat girls listening to cd players… i always assume that they listen to that chili’s baby back rib song. you know that song… “i want my baby-back, babyy-back, baby-back ribs… chilli’s baby back-ribs.”
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Liz
My favourite confession is this one (posted below). I read it yesterday and I absolutely love it, not only because it is written with so much raw anger and frustration, but also because I can really relate to it. It’s rare for me to find a confession that speaks to me on such a personal level, like this one did. The confession was deleted almost immediately after it was posted (for reasons unknown) but luckily, I had already saved it on my laptop.
Also, to whoever wrote that confession, just know that you’re not alone“i have a boyfriend and i know he loves me so much. but he has this ex-girlfriend and i fucking hate her and i hate thinking about her. she’s the only other person he ever had sex with and his only other serious relationship. i’ve never had another serious relationship. i fucking hate her so much. okay. i hate thinking that he loved her, that he would have sex with her and hold her afterwards and talk about how great she was. he is an artist and hes made art of her (just one piece) but it fucking disgusts me to look at it. i want to vomit when i think of them together. i hate it so much. i hate thinking that he ever thought she looked beautiful, that he missed her when she was gone, that he was happy to see her when they reunited. i hate thinking that he was sad when they broke up. it hurts me so much that we couldn’t have been there for each other as our firsts. god i just love him so much and i wish he never had slept with another person and had never loved anyone else in his life…i used to think that sex was just peoples bodies fucking lifelessly and didn’t mean anything (thats how it was for me before this relationship) but now that i’ve been in a real loving relationship where sex is a device to become closer, i realize that it means a lot.
FUCK”
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Ashley
I loved when someone said,
“you may feel lonely, but your not alone”
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Anonymous
one specifically stands out in my mind
about a doctor or nurse or surgeon or someone who said she went home and would masturbate every night after a long day at the hospital after all these deaths and stuff. She went on to say that it wasnt that death or dead people or whatever would turn her on, it was just that when all these people died in front of her that made her realize that life is short and that you should really enjoy yourself and have as much pleasure as possible all the time or something like that. Idk, she put it alot better then me tho. -
Anonymous
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So I guess we’re all growing up now and we’re not anything like what we used to be and we’re not anything like the pictures of us that our parents took when we were five and splashing around naked in the blue inflatable kiddie pool that our dads blew up with their mouths and filled with cool hose water but I don’t want to move on because I liked the way I was when I was a toddler and I liked the world the way I saw it when I was little. I want to be truly excited about the ice cream man again and I want to think I’m rich when I find a quarter on the ground and I want to go back to the time when bubble baths were acceptable forms of bathing and I want to find shapes in the clouds again and love rolling down the hill and I want to be able to put my baby teeth under my pillow for quarters in the morning and I want to once again love the glow sticks my parents bought for my brother and I that we would keep in the freezer so they’d last longer and take out every night and stare at them under our bed sheets until we fell asleep and my parents would sneak in and put them back in the freezer for tomorrow and I want to spend hours trying to catch butterflies and I want to make mud pies and wear little tiny rain boots and splash in puddles and I want to believe in Santa Claus again and I want to be excited about getting goldfish at the pet store and I want to trade candy with my brother after a night of trick-or-treating and I want to fit comfortably under my bed and I want to get lollipops when I get my hair cut and I want to diligently make leprechaun traps that never work and I want to get eggs from the Easter bunny and I want to finger paint and I want to sing the alphabet song and not understand how to tell time and I want to be tucked into bed at night and I want my nightlight with Winnie the Pooh on it back and I want to cry about skinned knees and laugh about knock-knock jokes and really truly love Dr. Seuss again and not fake-trying-to-be-cool loving it but this-is-the-same-book-you-read-to-me-every-night-of-the-year-but-I-want-you-to-read-it-to-me-again loving it and I want to fear only the monster under my bed and I want to not care how I look and not care what people think and I want to be excited about jigsaw puzzles that are too easy and I want to be able to spend ten hours drawing monsters on the concrete with chalk and not notice that a whole day has gone by and I want to have to learn to tie my shoe again and I want to not know that my race is different from your race and I want to be able to cry whenever I want to and I want to know that everything is always okay and that there will be someone watching ready to pick me up when I fall and brush off my hands and put band-aids on my knees and hold me and hug me and whisper in my ear that it’s alright and that I shouldn’t cry and that it’ll stop hurting soon and I want to ride my tricycle with the orange handles and black bars and the little glow-in-the-dark beads that my dad and mom helped snap on the spokes so they clacked when the wheels spun. -
Sour Nerds
I save my own confessions and others that are really funny or just really meaningful. Here are a few I’ve come across:
“every time i read the giving tree, i have to masturbate furiously. I just cant stop, all that giving and leaves..makes me so hot. I wish i had a giving tree so that it would give me a serious ass groping. oh my god i can just feel those leaves and branches squeezing me and fondling my balls and vagina.” I laughed so hard and I don’t know why. ;p
“Welcome to my uncool world where everyone is lonely and depressed.
Sure, low self-esteem is a turn-off, but isn’t that why you’re here too?
Maybe your girlfriend/boyfriend/husband/wife left. Maybe you have no friends. Maybe you hate your parents. Maybe you have a super smart sibiling. Maybe you have a super cool sibiling. Maybe you’re physically disabled. Maybe you’re mentally ill. Maybe you’re fat. Maybe you’re short. Maybe you’re ugly. Maybe you’re poor. Maybe you’re too rich for your own good. Maybe you’re not white and can’t mix in the mainstream. Maybe you’re gay. Maybe you’re an addict.
Whatever it is, it’s keeping you alone but you can’t help it. So here you are, looking for any human contact on group hug of all places.
It’s okay. We’re all losers. But really, it’s okay to be a loser. Cool people are boring anyway. They have no character and they have no depth in their lives. They’ve never explored the dark side of the human emotions, and they won’t get it even if you explained it to them.
But we still desire to be cool. We desire to be wanted. We desire to be worth something, and we prove our worth by others’ desires upon us.
So some of us go to clubs, trying to feel wanted, trying to feel in control. Some of us are even too uncool for clubs. We sit here with our capslock on, bashing on each others’ request for attention.
This is all too pathetic but too lovely because it’s too real. Even in this very place, we’re competing to be noticed, competing to be different, competing to be cool.
Here’s a confession: I need more attention. I need more people to care about me.
There, I said it.” I really loved this one.“I don’t like how almost all the confessions on here have to do with hate or sex. So… My confession? I really think paperclips are the cutest objects on Earth.” this one was clever.
“Last week i went on a rampage.. in a grocery store. I just threw grapes at everyone i saw and then decided that this old lady that had bumped me with her cart deserved an apple in the back of the head, well 5 apples in the back of the head.”
I don’t think I’ve laughed harder in my life. -
redkillertoaster@gmail.com
I want out of my fucking skin. I don’t fit here anymore, as if I ever did. I got what I thought I wanted, but I’m so confused and unsure. I’m never happy with anything. I get what I want then want what i can’t have. I’m so sick of walking in a stranger’s skin. I don’t know who I am or where I’m supposed to be, or what I’m supposed to be doing. I’m so confused, and once I think I’m back on my feet again, I get knocked down again. I’m living a fucking lie and no one can see it but me. I’m detached from everything any everyone, confined to my room burring my problems in face smiles and false laughter. Where am I supposed to go from here!? What do they want from me? I’ve given and had everything taken from me, I’m stripped to the bone, what else do I have to offer to these wolves that pick every scrap of life I have from my shattered remains?! I feel so trapped and helpless, and all the usual quick fixes aren’t helping. It just hurts too much and I can’t take it. I just want to run up to some stranger I see on the street and tell them to take me with them. I wouldn’t care where they where going, as long as they where getting out. I want out…I want to have a purpose, an identity, a place where I can belong and not have to HIDE what and who I really am, fearing that I’ll be brutally ridiculed and criticized.
I’m so lost… please someone find me.
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Anonymous...?
My personal favorite hmmm? I have 3.
1.well the one about the girl and the tree.
2.The guy that watched his neighbor…
3.My absolute fav. that I will never forget…
was, about a guy likeing “K” but he treated her like shit, just so she’d never know his true feelings, but when his B/F starts dating her He tells her how he feels, but the way he described it I just loved…”K” should dump her b/f for that guy you could tell he’s in love with her-M.D.
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MR MOO
I remember this one about a guy who was jealous of another guy for stealing his girlfriend, or being with the girl he wanted, or something like that.
He ejaculated into the guy’s shampoo, and the next day the guy had really shiny, greasy hair… I remember this one just because of the ending line:
“go grease lightning”
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Anonymous
you remember those burger king “eat like a man” commercials, advertising the whopper? or “be a man”, I forget exactly what the line was, but anyway, one guy wrote that he went into a burger king bathroom and pissed all over everything, the floor, the walls, the hand dryer, the toilet paper, in the sink, and he wrote it was his way of telling them he didnt like the commercial. I was just new to reading gh and I must have laughed for about 3 hours non-stop. that is tied for my fav with the very first time I ever read a gh confession, when I clicked a hyperlink from collegehumor, not knowing what to expect, and reading a guy confessing that while he is at work he tries to have sex with the floppy drive on his computer, but it doesnt work cause his dick is too small. fake, but still my favorite confession-I hadnt laughed for real in about a year before reading that. thanks, gh!
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Anonymous
though this one wasn’t touching, it made me laugh out loud and i smile whenever i think of it. i’ve tried to find it again but can’t. something along the lines of
“one time i farted so loud that it sounded like a race car that i laughed so hard that i threw up.” -
Anonymous
my favorite said something like this (I used to have it in my favorites but that was a few crashed broken lap tops ago):
“My neighbor has a goat farm. The property is pretty big and he can’t keep track of all the goats. One day I fucked his goat through the fence. It was the best sex I ever had in my life. About a week later that goat died. To this day I blame myself for the death of that goat.” -
Anonymous
I know this is for posting our favorite confessions but for confession number 11, its not a poem, its from the movie Paris, J’taime, which is a wonderful movie. Whoever posted that you should watch that
my favorite post was the one that was basically just “finally, im happy”
one of the best
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gabe
I’ve heard that a lot. But this time, it’s the site that’s sick, not the content. We were running some updates last night when things went fatal. We’re looking through the rubble and putting a plan together to get it back online. It could be quick, or it could take a minute. We’ll see. For now, I’m going to get this blog up and running so we all have a place to console one another. If you have a poem or an essay about how much you miss Group Hug, maybe I’ll post it here. Namaste.
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Pamela
What about those who are obsessed with reading others daily confessions, like me?
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Laura
Boo! =[
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jonesing
oh ffs, now i have to actually go and do SOMETHING instead of chewing through page after page of confessions?
at least it wasn’t spam bot fuckery…thanks again for this site.
and hurry up, yeah? i might get my laundry done at this rate.
hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
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Hannah
Oh goodness me. Get well soon, GH. x
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James
The internet is already a much darker and lonlier place ):
I hope the site’s back soon. There are so many people who need this site, to both those who confess their secrets and regrets and those who read the confessions to reassure themselves that their life is good.
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Brittaney
This site is very interesting. I love reading peoples confessions. Please get it up and running asap!
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tina
I can’t function without reading daily confessions. PLEASE HURRY WHILE I BREAK DOWN >:O
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Toria
I do hope you get the site up and running soon. I have lots more to confess and I love reading everyone’s confessions. It’s my daily therapy.
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Frosty
Thank God I bought the book! But I’m sorry to hear Grouphug is sick.
Get well soon, Old friend. -
Anonymous
NO ME GUSTA!
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Anonymous
I love reading daily confessions, they make me feel better. Get well soon!
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Anonymous
i know you will never love me as much as i love you. and it really hurts to think about.
i gave up everything for you, and all i got in return was you lying to my face. and making me cry.
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Anonymous
Now I have to be insecure on my own…
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i'm a lover, i'm a sinner
this may sound corny but i think this is an amazing website. it allows people to expose themselves without fear or shame, and then we all get to share the complexities of ourselves, the convoluted mess of joy and sadness, hope and despair, good, and evil, love and hate, certainty and doubt, and all the things that lift us up and drag us down; the mess that makes us human. and grouphug helps us show ourselves as human.
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Anonymous
Oh dear,I hate to hear that group hug is feeling poorly!
I want this book though,where can i buy it?
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Anonymous
I just started, and I’m already sad. I never thought that posting your thoughts Anonymously could feel good. I miss it.
Get better soon…
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Anonymous
I am 15 and masturbate almost every hour. I hate the horndog I’ve become. I dream of being a pornstar on the side.
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Anonymous
NAMASTE
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Hermit of a 22yr old...
I have friends but, Im never really allowed to be myself. I can’t enjoy everything all the time. I get bored to easily. I miss her. I wish some of the confessions on here where her so I would know what the fuck to do. Meh, time I start drinkin I suppose.
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Anonymous, and 
anonymous are discussing. 
Chemistry 11:40 pm on January 10, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply
Yes, like weight has been lifted.
Thanks for grouphug (:!