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  • SlowlyRising 10:34 pm on April 5, 2010 Permalink | Log in to leave a Comment
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    It’s been over a year now since my old life ended.

    My kid sister had a mental breakdown of some kind, I was falsely accused of being a child molester, and I lost my home, and all of my friends and family. The little girl I adored more than anyone else, who I would do anything for, thought I was the worst person in the world. And I felt like it.

    I’ve been living away on my own since then.

    Last week, during Spring Break, it was her 13th birthday. I don’t know what the fuck I was thinking. Against my better judgment, I went home. A few long bus rides and walks later, I was there.

    I caught her on her way out of the house. There was no doubt it was her, but she had grown. Jesus Christ, had she grown. She must have gained three or four inches since I saw her last. She had the figure of a woman. I could hardly recognize her as the little sister I used to give piggyback rides to.

    As soon as she saw me, she froze. I have rehearsed a million things I want to say to her, but my mind went blank in that moment. Isn’t that always the case?

    Something stupid and desperate overwhelmed me, and I actually hugged the frightened girl.

    She just stood there and stiffly accepted it, like she didn’t know what to do. I don’t know how long we stood there, it felt so good to hug her again, even if she wouldn’t return it. I actually started crying. Not just crying, bawling. I hugged her tight and told her I was sorry, apologizing for god-knows-what I did to her. I am the lamest big brother in existence.

    And then she asked me if I wanted to come inside.

    My parents were both home and they were visibly shocked to see me. We all made awkward small talk for a short while. I let everyone know where I was and what I was doing. Even though they think their son is a fucking pervert, they worried about me. I let them know I was doing okay.

    My sis didn’t say much of anything. I could feel how uncomfortable with my presence, so I left. On the way out, I think I heard her squeak out that it was good to see me. Maybe it was just wishful thinking.

    I should have gotten her a present.

    I think everything will be okay. I don’t know if I can ever go home, or if I even really want to anymore. She still needs some space. She still doesn’t trust me. But after the single hour I spent at home, I think it will all be okay.

    Some day I’ll be able to prove to her that her brother isn’t a bad person. We’ll be best friends again some day. I really believe that.

     
    • forget then 11:49 pm on April 5, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      I loved you when I first read this,
      and I love you more now.
      You are such a strong person.
      I think your life can only get better from here.
      I wish you all the best.
       <3

      • SlowlyRising 7:06 am on April 6, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply

        Thank you. That actually means a lot to me.

        • forget then 3:41 pm on April 6, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply

          I’m glad. You seem like you’ve had a lot thrown your way, and I’m glad to’ve said something that means something to you. You are genuinely a beautiful person to me, and if I knew you in real life, I’d give you a hug and kiss you on the cheek and tell you just how courageous you are and how beautiful your heart is.

    • nohelpforit 4:27 pm on April 7, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      I can’t imagine what that must have been like. You seem to be a very strong person though I’m sure it was never easy for you. I admire you. I hope you have better luck in the future.

  • SlowlyRising 10:04 pm on March 2, 2010 Permalink | Log in to leave a Comment
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    It’s been 6 months since I first posted here. It’s been a hell of a year, but life has stabilized.

    But I’ve got a new problem. It dawned on me that I’ll be all alone on my birthday this year. I’ve got no friends and my family mostly doesn’t want anything to do with me. I guess it’s been about a year since I’ve gotten a hug from my kid sister, or anyone for that matter.

    I’m not sure when it happened, but I can barely interact with people anymore. I’ve always been a little on the shy side, but nothing like this. When someone else starts a conversation, I can spit out a couple of words at best, maybe, but I can’t bring myself to really get to know anyone. I don’t know why. Some connection has been severed.

    But I dream about it. I see people and imagine myself taking to them. It’s even worse with the girls. I see a cute one and think about what a wonderful person she must be, and how happy I might be with her. There have been too many “what ifs” to count. I’ve never had much luck with women, I suppose, but it never really bothered me like this until now.

    I’d love to be loved, but I can’t put myself out there. I just want someone to hold and hug and cuddle. I really miss feeling someone else’s warmth.

    I’m in one of the most populated cities in the world, but I’ve never felt so lonely.

    But I’m not enough an egotistical bastard to think I’m the only one who feels this way. There’s got to be
    hundreds of people here like me, right? Maybe I’ll find them. Maybe we can be alone, together. Maybe you feel this way. Maybe it doesn’t matter, and it’s just a phase.

    I don’t know what to do with myself yet, but I CANNOT and WILL NOT stay this way.

    Happy birthday, me.

     
  • SlowlyRising 5:10 pm on September 13, 2009 Permalink | Log in to leave a Comment
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    Where to begin?

    Eight months ago now, my little sister lost her mind. Her personality completely shifted, and she accused me of molesting her. We were like best friends, I could never do such a thing, and I’d personally strangle anyone who did.

    And yet, I was instantly guilty. No need to offer a defense, I was a child molester. Is there a worse title to bear? My own family thought I did it, and they wouldn’t even look me in the eye. There was no proof, but why would a sweet young child lie? I wasn’t put in prison, but I could never go near my home of the last 10 years again.

    I miss her hugs.

    I contemplated killing myself but I was terrified of what that could do to my already warped little sister. I was swiftly thrown out of the house with no job or place to go. My friends could never take me in, it’s a small town, so everyone had heard what I “did.”

    I heard stories though. Some people would still talk to me, maybe out of pity, I don’t know. She was institutionalized several times, got new friends, acts like a criminal now. She’s run away from home at least twice.

    I wished I could help her. But I couldn’t.

    So I left. I wandered for a while. Everything for the first four months is a blur. I just lived. Odd jobs, sleeping outside, the kindness of strangers who would spit on me if they knew what others call reality. Starving my self to save money. I went to the big city, It’s not important which one.

    I’ve got no friends, but I don’t care anymore. I found a place to live, I went back to school. I want to learn Psychology. I don’t know what hell happened to my sister, but nothing like this should ever happen to anyone, ever again. I doubt there will ever be anything I can do, but I still want to try.

    I can survive for six more months with the money I’ve got, more if I can find decent work.

    Bring it on, you stupid fucking universe.

     
    • Nostalgia 5:41 pm on September 13, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      I applaud you.

    • 4815162342 6:58 pm on September 13, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      the last line says it best

    • Song4TheNotebook 7:36 pm on September 13, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      come live with me if you need a place to stay.
      ill take anyone in. i dont judge.

    • moonlight 8:21 pm on September 13, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      You sir, are an amazing person.

    • s1mpl1c1ty 10:18 pm on September 13, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      She was crying out for help,
      but I think you’ve got a beautiful soul for seeing past the stupid shit she did to you and wanting to help her through all her hardships.
      I pray for you, dear boy, and I want you to find love.
      If I was not in a commited relationship,
      and madly in love, I’d fall for you after you told me this story-
      because no matter if you did do this or not, and you said you didn’t, you wanted to help her
      you still loved her.
      You’re amazing.

    • 4qts 5:49 am on September 14, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      Whether you really molested her or not is not the question, you would not be the first or last. If you didn’t, the fact that you are strong enough to get through it all as you seem to have is HIGHLY commendable. For me the bigger picture in all this is the fact that a female of ANY age can accuse a male of molestation and the stigma and guilt is automatically assumed. My wife and her daughter (my step daughter) have a terrible relationship. Knowing that all she would have to do to screw up our lives’ would be to say I touched her, or even now, her daughter (my grand step-daughter) prevents us from having them around me un-supervised. She is a vindictive girl and has blatantly lied many times before. Guys don’t stand a chance under those conditions!!!!!!

    • groupkiss 5:53 am on September 14, 2009 Permalink | Log in to Reply

      i’m sorry to hear that, but i hope you keep on going, what you’ve done is amazing. good luck!

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