I have never felt like this before. A few hours ago, I was laying down with Brandon, watching a movie and all I could think about was the fact that he was not holding me like Adam did… About how uncomfortable it was in comparison. I turned towards Brandon and started to caress his stomach, […]
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Sure, I still love you with all my heart and soul. You’re my best friend. I loved you for two years. Sometimes, I still do. It’s hard not to. But really, dear. You need to stop making me think you still like me. I don’t know if you do, or if you were just being […]
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One day you will find someone that will make you feel exactly how you want to feel. Beautiful, and pretty, without neglecting the parts of you that are tough, strong, and bold. It’s okay to be somewhere in the middle. It’s okay to embrace different facets of your personality and femininity/masculinity at different times. That’s what makes us special. It’s okay to not understand what you want, that may change over time, and you may not know what you want until you find it. 
I’m dealing with a memory that never forgets… I still love the girl I cheated on my current girlfriend with. Almost 2 years ago it happened and she didn’t find out unti recently when we had a separation. I need happiness in my life. My heart is hopeless confused
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It’s late, and I feel like I’ve wasted yet another day of my fading childhood. I just don’t know how to be happy anymore… I just know how to work. And work. And work. And I’m not happy then either. I’m rather confused, anymore. Male attention is nice, I guess, playing the piano used to bring […]
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So… I can relate a lot to you. I had a time too, in which I felt so bored and dull and nothing, no matter what would make me excited or make me dream. I felt the same as you did with your piano but with my guitar. What I did was try to do all the contrary as my past in whcih I had so much depression and pain. I tried to change my routine and do different things than I usually did. Such as painting, trying to learn songs that Im crazy about on my guitar instead of just easy ones. I tried to make everything I did a little special even if it was in the smallest way. The feeling started to fade away, a lot more when I started school. Maybe you should try to see the work not as work but as a bonus for going out and doing something like facing a brand new day every day. I too, work like an animal at school. But I do know why I do it. I do it cause I want to have the opportunity to study outside the country. Im sick of the place where I live, where people are ignorant and everything is dull. The guilt. Guilt of not working is very normal, you should ask yourself why you feel guilty. What’s the result of not working? And then the contrary of the answer for that question, you might work so much cause you want something, or dont want something specific to happen. Im sorry if its too confusing, I just cant find other words to explain :S
It makes a lot of sense, and it’s nice to hear that someone can relate. I’ll definitely take your advice.
On another note, I’ve studied for a summer ourside of the States, and found it rather refreshing. You should go for it, it’s so much fun to do!
i thought about confessing what i’m feeling right now, but i rather just know this - what makes you get up every morning? what helps you deal with loss, whether it be of love or of life? what makes you turn away from giving up? i need an answer and i don’t know who to […]
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It varies. What makes me get up, is I can’t stay in bed. No matter how much I may want to.
I’ve never had much loss to deal with, but I generally don’t deal with it well. I dig at the problem, try and find out as much as I can. It rarely works.
And what keeps me from giving up is my friends. I don’t have much faith in family any more. So I put my faith in the people I choose to care about, and in the fact that the world keeps going. That as long as you keep going with it, there’s a chance things get better. And sometimes I let myself give up for a bit, just to remind myself what it’s like. To remind myself why I don’t want to do it.
i can’t believe you guys. i thought i could trust you - i thought you were my friends. guess i was wrong. five out of my seven closest friends that go to my school are talking about me behind my back. calling me selfish, calling me pathetic, making me sound like a monster. apparently one of my friends feels […]
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since i can’t edit my post and i forgot to add this on: i know you lurk grouphug sometimes, molly. don’t think about emailing me, don’t think about saying sorry. i’m over you.
agreed. Drop them like a bad habit. get some people who will get your back. i dont know about other people and i dont presume to speak for them but i am the type of person who will have your back and if you needed it give my life to save my friends
Those are the kind that are not worh it. The kind who youre only friends with just cause youre with them at school. One thing though, no offense, but are you selfish?
selfish can be judged in many ways. everything a human does is selfish - if you help someone, it’s to make yourself feel good. a selfish desire.
I got a job just over a week ago and I am already thinking about quitting. It’s at a newspaper, so tangentially in my field (I was an English major), but I’ve already realized I absolutely suck at working on my own and staying self motivated, and I don’t really like doing legwork or interviewing […]
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I understand. I’ve had both jobs with too much and too little responsibility and they were both hell in different ways.
I think the problem is that the best things in life aren’t jobs, that’s why people get paid to do them. Not much consolation to those of us who need to work.
I’ve actually toyed with the idea of becoming a career counsellor or something like that. Now, having said what I just did about jobs, I don’t think I could, in good conscience…
Here we go again. 
Good luck.
i know that i am pretty enough. but my friends are so much more attractive so many of them are korean. i feel left out. they have their jokes and customs and secrets that i wouldn’t understand because i’m not asian. not enough close. and it’s not even just being korean. just being asian in generally. and i […]
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Oh, dear. The last thing the world needs is another weeaboo.
(post a picture to prove prettiness, etc.)
you think you need to be asian to be beautiful? or just be like your friends?
you mad! seriously. i bet you are just as attractive. in your own special way!
- Shannon
People who do not work seem to have all the time in the world to chit chat with those of us who do work about mundane unimportant things. Shut your freaking yap and get to the point already.
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I think I am addicted to sex. I have been watching porn since I was around 13 and ever since I’ve lost my virginity…all I do is try and find ways to have sex with someone. I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m 19. But I never really think about boyfriend material…I just kind […]
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there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. you have an active craving for sex and maybe a very nice imagination. I would suggest for you to just be safe. I’m in the same boat just not about guys. I just found out yesterday that I might be a paraphiliac. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. I have an excellent therapist.
Here’s my take on it (without knowing you obviously): Unless it’s interfering with you operating in your normal life, there’s nothing wrong with you. That is to say, if you absolutely CANNOT control your behaviour, or you don’t like what you’re doing but can’t stop, then yea it might be time to really talk to somebody. If you’re doing it and it makes you feel like shit and riddled with guilt, talk to someone.
But if it’s not, don’t worry about it. You’re not married, no kids. So just be safe. Be really really safe, and who gives a shit what society has to say about it. They’re not walking in your shoes. And besides if you were a 19yr. old guy laying chick left, right, and center and laying two in the same day they’d be giving you medals. It just a weak double standard that men are revered for having a sex drive while women get vilified for it. Don’t buy into it.
As for the rest: Shit I’m way older than 19, and I keep waiting for the day my sex drive is going to die down and it just doesn’t. And the porn? Forget about it. I look at so much tranny porn it should be a crime. No one knows, I’m a decent person, good friend. I pay my taxes. Who cares? I’m not overly concerned about it. Cut yourself some slack.
I don’t think I’ll ever get over my sex addiction…
I agree with Y ask Y! And believe me, later on in life, when you’re older and perhaps in a serious relationship, you will be glad that you explored and experimented. Be safe and don’t let guys use you, if there are no feelings involved, really, you’re using them.
Meeting him again and discovering who he was and going down memory lane because of it has caused me to yearn for what we might have had but is now not attainable. I finally have it figured out… I think. I think this would be a normal for anybody that finds themselves in this situation […]
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I said it out loud for the first time - I’m in love with him. So why am I crying?
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I hate seeing her fall for someone else and her hanging out with her ex-girlfriend… and I hate myself for not telling her anything. Which I probably never will. I keep trying to forget her… but I always find myself replying to her messages. Why is it so hard to forget her? I literally think […]
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You never know unless you try.
If your going to start somewhere new or take to another city. Please make sure you are completely ready for it. Because it won’t be easy. Starting out somewhere new never is.
Go and find the one who’s right for you. It could be the girl you are talking about. It could be someone completely different.
Good luck.
And remember,
Infinate Hope.
- Shannon
I’m frustrated. I went back to him to resolve the issues, to figure out what was going on and see if his assholeishness was malicious or not. I’m satisfied that hes a good person, just with huge issues. I am satisfied that he is not an asshole. But I don’t understand why people insist on […]
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Is he mentally ill? He sounds like it. I had one before and it drained me so much I don’t want to have any emotional ties (read: friendship) with anyone who’s mentally ill. I’m not trying to discriminate all mentally ill people, but it takes a lot to be in a “relationship” (whether friendship, familial, or intimate) with them.
Ha. I guess in a way. I don’t think he knows how to trust people anymore. Its sad, because I do like him. Its not even that I uberdoober like him, that would be silly at this point, I have only known him for 2.5 month, but this is the third time this year I have had people seriously mess with my head, and it is really getting to me and affecting me more everytime. I tried to trust him, and he is also the only person whom I have ever slept with. I don’t expect that much. I just do not understand the point of lying. I just want the truth, and I do at least want to remain friends because I think hes a wonderful person despite all the dark and twistiness. And FML, hes everywhere, I can’t avoid it.
Life needs direction. I need to know I’m moving in a direction in any direction at all. I feel like I’m standing still weighted down like a rock. Sturdy and firm I stand but I don’t know where I stand. I want to cry out for advice but I am too stubborn for that. Why […]
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Sorry to put it so bluntly, but telepathy isn’t exactly common in humans. Don’t expect anyone to know anything about you unless you explain it to them in just so many words. Ever.
I don’t expect other people to know anything about me. I view confessions as a personal statement to ramble and to get things off my chest.
Today my boyfriend almost broke up with me. It’s funny, I had been somewhat fed up with the relationship and the thought of ending it had been crossing my mind. It didn’t exactly sadden me, either. It was almost a relief. He moved 150 miles away a few weeks ago and things have been tough […]
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From what you’re saying, he’s right, you know? And you seem to admit it too… Seems to me like you took his assurances to mean that you can get away with everything and tried to do just that, so maybe something like this is just what you both needed.
There can be a certain degree of constructive arguments and perhaps even a certain degree of butting heads for no other reason than because it’s how you “work” without problems because that’s just how some people are (myself included - though not in a relationship; bar a few crucial issues, with her I’d just shrug and give in, it was too important to risk over differences of opinion on non-critical issues, which is something you may need to learn), but when it gets to basically just aggravating the other on purpose or even just putting minor issues in front of the relationship, that can’t work.
Think of it as a new start, if he’s truly willing to give it another go. But TALK about it, A LOT!
I want to fuck my best friend. We dated for about a month a while back, and the physical attraction I’ve always felt for him has never really left, though the other feelings have. I love being with him and hanging out, but I just can’t deny how much I want to have sex with him. […]
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Love is really like a rollercoster… You wait in line for ages, but some lucky people get the fast track and i never seem to be one of them. When you get there and you get on it’s so scary, new and exciting. Then it starts and you have fun on the ride. Differnt people […]
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You don’t use words to express that. You hold each other close, look into each other’s eyes, at night, when it’s quiet and nobody could bother you, possibly in a relatively dark room, possibly while having sex, and you just wait until everything that needs to be said is “said”, without a single word.
“What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
Cavalary is right, body language and actions say so much even more than words sometimes.
Anyway, I really liked your analogy. The best analogies, I think, are the ones that compare something complicated to something so simple that anyone can understand.
my current boyfriend is telling me nonstop how much he loves me, how beautiful i am and basically that he thinks i’m perfect and his soulmate. it makes me feel terrible. he’s the kind of guy that has long, meaningful relationships. my longest relationship was two and a half weeks. i never told him this. […]
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make up your mind fast. if you really think you this guys is taking your relationship seriously and you’re not, then better break up with him as soon as possible rather than taking so long and end up breaking up with him anyway which will cause him more pain. better be honest and real now than later. you never regret being real to yourself. but, if you really, really, really like/love this guy (meaning, like you’re really into him) then good for you.
You are right. You don’t deserve him.
I would suggest you wait until mid-January after all the festivities are done and dealt with.
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im not gona go into whether or not you deserve him or visa versa, because i dont KNOW either of you. but if youre not sure whether or not you love him, then il tell you: you don’t. and its not fair to drag it out, because its not going to make it any easier for him. do it (break up with him i mean) now, or as soon as you can, because no time is going to be any nicer a time.
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I say this with all the kindness of my heart…
But Brandon doesn’t deserve someone who is pitting him against their ex.
You’re constantly comparing your last boyfriend to him, which to be honest, we all do. Especially with our first love. Paradoxically, the easiest way to determine when we meet someone WE deserve and someone who makes us happier than the person before (in your case, Adam), you find that they’re incomparable to the new guy, in the sense that they weren’t as fantastic as you made them out to be, because you’re so much happier now.
Sure, you’ll always compare past situations to present ones, we can’t help ourselves and it’s human nature to benchmark situations and people.
It all boils down to the fact that you shouldn’t be with anyone right now, not until you meet that guy that makes you forget about the past. Some moments in every relationship will be nostalgic to something you’ve already experienced, it can’t be helped, but just wait for the guy who you actually become attracted to, who you want to get to know, want to kiss and want to experience a relationship with. Don’t just date anyone for the sake of it. You’re wasting his and your time and that’s not fair.
He’s innocently laying there sleeping, while you’re putting down the strength of his heart beat.
And Adam? Adam isn’t with you anymore and you need to come to terms with that yourself, in your own time. It took me many, many months for that to happen to me, and it wasn’t because friends and family told me to get over my ex. It was when it finally clicked that he and I were no longer and would never be, and that life goes on.
A simple, overused phrase; life goes on. It’s true though.
Also, if he refuses to get back with you, it’s because he’s hurt. If he’s hurt, he’s most likely vulnerable, if he’s vulnerable, there’s a chance that if you fight for what you want, you’ll eventually get it. Get him. You just need to prove to him that you deserve him, if you’re the one that stuffed up. Maybe he’s over you? Maybe not? Maybe he’s with someone else? It can’t hurt to find out, everything happens for a reason.
But before you fight for your happiness and the love of your life, consider his happiness. Are you good for him? Really, deep down, are you?
If that’s a yes, then fight for it.
Get him back.