I will preface this by saying I am in a long-term relationship. A few years ago I met someone I liked and for about a year we were friends and then this turned into something more. The “affair” only lasted for a couple of weeks because he moved to a different country. We had a […]
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i miss him…
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Jasmine
third coming out attempt: failed. mother, understand. i’m not confused - you’re ignorant.
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px2006
I miss you so much and each day without you hurts. I can’t just “take a break” from you and wait until you get better and then see if we still want to be together, whatever that means. You won’t explain to me what you meant. I’m glad we still talk but it’s hard to […]
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All Time Shannon
i know what you mean by this, and im afraid there is nothng you can do about how you are feeling. ive felt the same for almost 2 years. But i figured its better to have him as a friend than not at all. Maybe in the future, things will change, and be the way you want them to be. Don’t give up.
- Shannon
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JOHNSGIRL
I miss you so much. I don’t understand what happened. One day everything is fine the next you won’t talk to me. OMG your 40 years old, we are not kids why are you acting like one? So I leave you a message and tell you fine, I will go away and leave you alone […]
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pd0815
It’s all out of the blue? Just from the information in this post i surmise he’s playing games with you. Don’t call… play the game if you want but if you do, games is all you will play forever.
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lavieboheme
yesterday i was scared that if i felt him, even through his pants, it’d become all he wants. today, when we were holding hands in the hall, he put my hand there… and then last hour, he hugged me, and pulled me to him, and asked if i could feel how hard he was. im scared i […]
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rubies
While you were holding hands in the hall at school?! … you might be right..
I don’t know what the nervous game is but I doubt its a great excuse for cheating. You’re going to be jealous of his best girlfriend for the rest of your relationship, do you think you can handle that? He shouldn’t even be friends with her after the cheating part. She disrespected your relationship.
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itsme1
This is getting bad
I have tried being happy lately. I really do hate being down and I am normally an upbeat person. I am usually telling my wife to be more positive…The truth is, I hate my life. I feel like the last 14 years have been a waste. I messed up and put myself in a situation […]
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GraingerGuy
You’re seriously $100K in debt? Credit card debt? Time for bankruptcy my friend. It’ll get the creditors to stop calling and will give you a plan and peace of mind. Call an attorney. That’s one way to start.
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Y ask Y
Hey man. It’s never too late. There’s a saying that you have to eat an Elephant in small bites. Right now I’m sure it looks insurmountable, but even the smallest step towards change might create an Avanlanche towards something greater.
There’s truth in your post, and certainty. The certainty is that if you don’t make a change of some kind, you’re right, your life is guaranteed to be ass until the grave. Hope will come from change, man. It won’t just fall out of the sky. And that’s frightening and it’s shit and it sucks, but that’s how it is.
I don’t know about the debt. But I do know about no having much money to go around. The money has nothing to do with your ability to interact with your kids. Being a great dad is free. It’s just a matter or perspective, and if you don’t have money, ingenuity. You can do it.
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bobburgster
file for bankruptcy
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Y DO I LUV U
wtf
i read good quotes about moving on and never giving up hope… but im losing hope. i feel we’re drifting apart.. i know i f***ed up, and now im paying for it.. you have school and work. and you’re under a lot of stress. i understand that. u say you’re a bad gf and u cant […]
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All Time Shannon
She sounds a bit like me, half the time I don’t know what’s wrong with me either. What you need to do, Is not think you have done something wrong. Because there’s a large possibility that you are not the one who has upset her or made her happy, because if it was.. She probably would have already told you. Just be there for her, don’t ask questions about what’s wrong and how you can help. That will make things worse. Be the great boyfriend you are, text her randomly and tell her you love her and soon enough her frown will turn upside down. Good luck *hug*
- Shannon, x
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All Time Shannon
Unhappy* I meant -__-
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Y DO I LUV U
its just really hard. cause she says maybe she doesnt wanna be happy.. and my insticnt is to make her happy.. like this morning i was gunna drive over and put a not on her car that said i love you. and i told her, and she got kinda mad. cause i was changing.. but its not fair cause she is also changing.. and she says at times she isnt happy in the relationship..
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All Time Shannon
I know what you mean, it is hard. And don’t forget it must be hard for her too. Things will get better in time, but try not to rush it. I know you want things to get better, while it fixes itself and she has a bit of thinkig space. You just have to try and stay positive. On the bright side of things… Try listening to owl citys album; ocean eyes. (NOT fireflies, that’s overrated)
Don’t forget I’m here if you need to talk- Shannon
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All Time Shannon
“we must accept finite dissapointment, but never lose infinate hope” - Martin Luther King Jr.
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MyRelease
It’s hard always being the strong, dependable one, because no one ever notices when you’re not ok, you have had to learn to hide it with a smile
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nothing but me
I totally understand how you feel.
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MyRelease
sometimes I just wanna go wild, go out and party, I’m nearly 23 now, and I never did they whole go out and party ever fri and sat night (legal drinking age here is 18) I feel like I missed out on my teenage years, I literally have no true friends, only acquaintances really…i feel so alone sometimes even though I have a boyfriend
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Chemistry
I know this is late, but I understand completely, too.
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noleftturns
Surprises
I wish someone would surprise me with something nice. Just once. I feel like I’m always trying to please people, and I never get the same in return. Take me to lunch, stop by my place for a visit unannounced, show an honest interest in me for once, I don’t care. I just want proof you […]
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immortally.alive
I know exactly how you feel. sometimes you give n give n give, but when ur in need theres no one in sight. my friends only talk to me when they need somethin n they never text or call to see how im doin. although i’d spend my last dime on them.. Theres not much i can do. The world is selfish and ugly… good thing theres still ppl like us. keep ur head up, cuz ur probably making someones day.
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Remixer
People are far less grateful for what you do for them than you will probably ever believe.
However, you have no right to expect the things you do.
Either they show interest in you or they don’t. Humans are fickle that way.
Trying to “coerce” (for lack of a better word) them into having an interest in you by doing nice things for them, the fault lies with you and noone else.
If you are not satisfied with it, find better friends or change your attitude.
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noleftturns
Wow, you’re pretty cynical. When it comes down to it I don’t do nice things to get people to like me, I do them because I like people. My friends like me and I like them, and I have to congratulate you on getting me to see that by posting a response as useless as “people suck you should get better friends.” That’s a real gift.
P.S: You don’t have to put your name at the end of your post. We already see it at the top.
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noleftturns
Addendum: After seeing your other posts, I’m pretty sure you’re either out of touch with humanity, a troll, or a fourteen year old.
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Remixer
Cheers, but I’m neither of those.
Regardless, the point still stands, that if you’re not happy with what you have, change must occur.
Whether you accept that logic or brand it as cynical and me as a troll, is your decision. Neither affects the argument in place.
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noleftturns
Well, crisis averted.
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Kitty
I feel the same <3
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secondchancesx3
I kiind off feel the same sometimes..but not really. Like I do things for people because I want to do them. Not because I expect something in return.
but then sometimes, set the whole, i do things for people aside, i feel like i just dont get treated well sometimes. But it has nothing to do with the fact that i did something for them first…
idk if that makes any sense at all. lol
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thallie
I feel guilty for whining all the time. I am so blessed, but all I can do is bitch and moan and throw myself a pity party. I really need to get my ass in gear and cheer up, but I just seem to lack the ability /: I am an incredibly lame person.
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secondchancesx3
your not lame. your human! Its okay, your time will come. All of our times, they will come!
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D.S
You are not lame and you know it.
You’re going through a tough one at the moment and it’s so understandable to be upset and admittedly, a little selfish. I think it’s fine and, well, expected for anyone to act like that.
Because I know how you feel. You think that everything would just disappear in a heartbeat if things went back to the way they were.
The sad truth is, is that the likelihood of it going back to the way it was wouldn’t ever happened.
If i were in your position, i’d recommend to explicate all feelings, on here and with your therapist.
You’ll be fine.
And I completely agree with seconchancesx3!
Take care,
Daniela
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thallie
It’s really sad when the thing that you gear up for every week is a visit to your shrink ):
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secondchancesx3
sometimes i think i need to see a shrink. or therapist of some kind. im not strong enough to do that though. Honestly tho i dont really think im at the point where i need to see one yet. But if i get any worse then maybe.. ah. Idk, just thoughts sometimes.
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thallie
I’d see one. You’re in college, right? Talk to your school’s counselors. That’s what I’m doing. I didn’t think I needed one, either, but a friend talked me into seeing one and it’s been REALLY helpful.
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sabbath
Thats not sad at all, I think thats nice!
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CrimsonTears
it was the only event that happened during my weeks, my only socialization, my only reason to get out of bed, and my only reason to live for a while. I kept living every day because I was scared it’d hurt my psycho if I died, that she may feel she had failed me and I wasn’t able to do that to her.
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thallie
I miss him so, so, so, so incredibly, mind numbingly, heart achingly much. All I want is a call a night. Ten minutes. But that’s too much to ask for. I’m so lonely, but what else can I do? It’s even worse, because I know that he’s with her when he’s not talking to me. […]
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Cornholio
Thallie: I feel for you, I’m in the same position. I wish I could forget her. Though we’re meeting again soon I think this will be a mistake
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secondchancesx3
“I miss him so, so, so, so incredibly, mind numbingly, heart achingly much.”
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“I wish that I didn’t love him half as much as I do.”2 sentences that describe exactly how i feel about internet dude.
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bunny
This describes me so well, too
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scp
Oh god, I can relate so badly. <3
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thallie
For the last two days, I’ve felt okay. It’s 2am and I don’t want to go to sleep, because I’m afraid that tomorrow will be a bad day, and this whole vicious cycle of happy and unbelievably, crushingly sad will start all over again.
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sabbath
That cheers me up a little that you’re happy!
Don’t focus on being unhappy tomorrow, try not to think about it.. I hope you are as happy as your are now as when you awake
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rivergirl
I used to feel like that all the time. I was scared of my feelings going away.
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thallie
I work so hard to be perfect. I try so hard to be charming, and pretty, and fun, and strong, and clever, all in the hopes that I can get someone, anyone, to love me enough to want to keep me.
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reduxxd
Try reading this: If it helps… tell pple abt it!
http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/article/the-pursuit-of-happiness
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thallie
Thanks for the try, but this didn’t really help me ): I did love myself for a while, but that didn’t seem to change anything. I’m just as unlovable as ever.
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shameful
Hi Thallie. You have replied to me before i have never to you. I am the one who is having an online/phone affair. I still am. I know bad person. Anyway, it sounds like you are like a lot of us who just want to be loved and never feel like we fit in. And yet here WE ALL ARE on this message board trying to reach out to on another. What is up with that? I know that I am not perfect and I don’t try to be anymore. Just know that I and sounds like a lot of other ppl empathize with you.
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secondchancesx3
hey thallie. you dont have to work so hard to be perfect. I bet you already are charming, BEAUTIFUL, fun, stong and smart without even trying!! Someone worth your love, will love you how you are RIGHT now. love you for all your imperfections, all your flaws (lets face it. we all have flaws! Its half of what makes us so individual, and beautiful!) Someone will come around, and you will be perfect in their eyes. Dont settle for “someone, anyone” When the right guy comes, you will know it. because not only will you be pefect in his eyes, you will be pefect for each other. And it will be beautiful.
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noname
So I have this problem, a kind of normal problem I guess. I’m still in love with my ex boyfriend. We started dating August 20th and we were on and off for 9 months. I never gave him head, but I let him take my virginity. After he took my virginity he decided head was more important […]
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Dan-Yella
I’m in a slightly similar situation.
Except, we broke up after 9 months for fighting over the most irrelevant things that just weren’t important. The thing is, we still remain friends in the hopes of working things out.
That’s when it gets sticky. He doesn’t know what he wants it seems, because one minute he can be cold and distant and then the next, we’ll hug eachother, and everything feels just right.
Its so much easier to just fall into a pattern, rather than moving on. And although you have moved on it doesn’t seem like you’re over your ex. Maybe if you had some single, alone time, you might be able to clear your thoughts.
All the best.
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padyirishman
hiya wana chat
padyirishmanatyahoodotcodotuk
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anon650
I don’t know why but for some reason, snowglobes make me really sad. I can’t stop looking at them and they are very beautiful but they often bring me to tears. I’m a guy…
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Shannon_Secret
Awhh! Thats such a cute confession. Many things make me cry, don’t worry about it, many people cry at snow globes. X
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anon650
I think it’s because I’m just starting life on my own and the world seems so big and scary but the snowglobes are small and contained and simple and beautiful and I wish I could live in them. I feel so silly…
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Shannon_Secret
The world Is a scary place, but everyone has to face it some time. Soon enough you’ll love it. And start making your dreams a reality!
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CrystalFlyFaery
That’s cute
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Napoleon
It’s alright, the Simpsons makes me cry sometimes.
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Not good enough
I’m 19 years old this year and I’ve only had sex once. It feels like something’s wrong with me! I’ve had one boyfriend and we knew eachother though school, so we got together after 3 years in the same class and now I feel like it’s impossible to meet someone, because no one will ever […]
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CrystalFlyFaery
It won’t stay that way. Don’t let your lack of cock devour you.
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colleenknows
Read “The Art of Seduction” by Robert Greene. It will help. I promise.
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Group.Huggies
Look, even if you’re fat and/or ugly if you’re DTF guys will accommodate you. Let it be known you’re horny, the problem will take care of itself.
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yarsaf
Don’t fret about it too much; you’ll do it eventually. Just find some guy and do him silly
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numbereft
I’m also 19, but haven’t even had sex once. I do however have a wonderful girlfriend and know that it’s not far off. Just wait until you find someone nice and who adores you. Then it’ll never end. I know exactly how you feel about thinking you’re not good looking enough or smart or funny enough. You’re wrong, you’re always exactly what somebody out there wants.
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leotolstoy
I’m 22 and haven’t had sex. I understand what you are saying. I don’t let myself get that close to anyone. If you figure out what to do, you should let me know, I’m still trying to figure that out too.
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Kerushi
Masturbation is your friend.
I’m going through the same thing. But I met this guy, we got along, and he decided he didn’t like me anymore.
I didn’t even get laid so I’m still all sorts of filled with lust.
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4qts
The problem is you are all continually looking; except your situation, embrace it and when you least expect it someone will come into your life!
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0T791
Wow. Exactly the same here, except i’m 18 and i’ve never had sex.
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El_Scorcho
You left me. I love you.
That’s it. It’s over. After one hell of a year and two months, you finally left me. I can’t really believe it. I don’t want to. I’m such a fucking idiot for the things i’ve done. I’m such a self centred dick for the things i’ve thought. I’m such a insensitive cunt for the things […]
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Cherry_chapstick7
I can’t really say anything but, “I’m sorry”. I hope things get better.:)
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joei
“I memorise every word you say and I hold it closer to my heart than my lungs”-
“although there are more fish in the sea. I’ll never find quite a rare beauty like you”
Man that’s beautiful! I sure hope you get your second chance- otherwise she’s the loser!
You’re 15! Hell, as a romantic by the time you’re 18 you’ll be unstoppable!and your PS hits the nail right square on the head.
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kiwi.in.oz
I think you are wrong in your PS. I don’t think they manage it at all, they are probably shut off to emotions because emotions can be scary and uncontollable sometimes.
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heavymetalcows22
I know how you feel. I am only 18, I was with someone from when i was 16 until a couple of months ago. Age makes no difference, don’t let anyone tell you that it does. I love him with all my heart. We never fought, until the last couple of months. Because I was so afraid that it was to good to be true, I was insecure and defensive. He left and said he was unhappy, later I found out that wasnt the reason. But my point is.. If you know you love this person with all of your heart and every drop of your soul, if you love them more than anyone in the universe, then don’t give up. If the love is as true as it sounds, she will realize that you’re wonderful. Some people are just meant to be together, no matter how many times they try to tear themselves apart. I’m still waiting. It hurts, but I know some how some way I’ll get another chance. I hope you do too. I’ll pray for you, whether you believe in God or not, that you find your happiness again. To be happy and in love is unequaled by every other emotion combined. Its bliss, and everyone deserves it. Good luck.
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El_Scorcho
kiwi, I hope you are wrong, but y’know what, i think you’re right.
I’ve tried for a second chance, i mean i’ve really tried. I’ve begged, and begged, to the point just before she starts to think i’m going to become an obsessed psycho killer ex-boyfriend. She won’t. It’s okay though. I don’t deserve one. I treated her like shit, so i shouldn’t have another. She doesn’t love me, so it’s okay that i won’t. She never has. So it’s good. She can find someone she does love now, who won’t treat her like he’s paid for her. Who she can spend time with, share love and laughter with, hug, kiss, and argue with. I just wish that person was me.
heavymetalcows22, I do love her more than anything in the universe, but that’s why i am giving up. Letting a bird out of a cage to be free kind of thing. I feel for you though, cause it seems as if we’re in a similar situation, the difference lies in that I know she is better off without me. By the sounds of things, you two are perfect for each other, and you’re perfectly right. Keep going, keep trying.
But me, i deserve not to be prayed for. I deserve not to be felt for, and with L, i don’t deserve unequaled happiness. Unfortunately, i wouldn’t have it with anyone else.
Oh, and joei, There is no winner in love. It is not a game as much as it may seem like it. It’s the most serious thing in the world. People have killed for it, people have died for it. People still do. Although there is no winner although it is no game, there will always be a loser, and on this occasion, it is me, not her. And now i seem like a patronizing idiot, talking to someone older than him like he has no idea on what love is. I should shut up. My apologies.
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camomile
Better move on .
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miss jellyfish
therapy and “telling someone” doesnt work for shit. it makes my depression worse. if they dont give me the fucking meds soon, im not going to be around for much longer.
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anon650
A lot of it is just the way you think. Try to look at things differently and have more confidence in yourself - even when it seems tough or dumb. Don’t rely on medications - you’ll just become someone else who is dependent on them and the more you keep on using the medications the worse things will become. Medication isn’t the answer, you don’t need that shit.
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All Time Shannon 7:30 am on March 7, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply
hmm… i dont know what to say to this. I see you tagged it as ‘sad’ please dont be sad. you have the courage to come out, some people don’t. know that we accept you. your mother will come round. what she said, that you confused… is only to be expected.
how old are you may i ask?
jasmine 11:28 am on March 7, 2010 Permalink | Log in to Reply
i’m fourteen years old, but i came out to my best friend at thirteen, and i’ve known who i am for longer than that. hopefully my mother will eventually see
i just gotta hold on, all my friends are wishing the best for me, and i love them all for that ^-^